‘Man wh**e’ police officer accused of strangling lover in car tells murder trial he ‘fell on top of her by accident’ in fight that was ‘just a kerfuffle’ before his arm ‘slipped’ around her neck
- PC Timothy Brehmer, 41, is on trial at Salisbury Crown Court accused of murder
- The officer is accused of killing Claire Parry, 41, with whom he had 10 year affair
- Mrs Parry found unconscious with neck injury in pub car park in Dorest in May
- Brehmer, a Dorset Police officer, accepts manslaughter but he denies murder
A married ‘man w***e’ police officer accused of strangling his secret lover in a pub car park has today told a murder trial he ‘fell on top of her by accident’ during a fight over their relationship.
PC Timothy Brehmer today told jurors the fight with mistress Claire Parry was ‘just a kerfuffle’ before his arm ‘slipped’ around her neck as they were in a ‘piggy-back position’.
The 41-year-old said the pair had been arguing in his Citroen C1 and that she was ‘taking the mick out of me’ and was ‘jealous of my perfect life as she called it’, jury members heard.
Brehmer told the court he got out of the car and went round to the passenger’s side, but ‘didn’t have the strength’ to pull Mrs Parry out as she was ‘doing everything she could to stay away’ so ‘bundled in’.
Married mother-of-two Mrs Parry, 41, was found unconscious in the car park of the Horns Inn in West Parley, Dorset, on May 9. She died a day later in hospital.
A post mortem examination showed Mrs Parry, who had been having a 10-year-old affair with Brehmer, died from a brain injury caused by compression of the neck.
The Dorset Police officer, who is on trial at Salisbury Crown Court accused of her murder, which he denies, was today giving his account of the pair’s fight to jury members.
He said: ‘I didn’t mean to hurt her, I fell on top of her by accident more than anything.
PC Timothy Brehmer today told jurors the fight with mistress Claire Parry was ‘just a kerfuffle’ before his arm ‘slipped’ around her neck as they were in a ‘piggy-back position’
Married mother-of-two Mrs Parry, 41, was found unconscious in the car park of the Horns Inn in West Parley, Dorset, on May 9. She died a day later in hospital
‘I was trying to grab hold of her, my arm was around her.. it was just a kerfuffle.
‘If you imagine a piggy-back.. to hold on you have to have your arms around them.
‘I was directly on top of her like a piggy-back, I was trying to bump her out of the car. I was trying so hard to get her out and she was actively doing all she could to stay in.
‘My left arm was around the top of her chest, by the collarbone, but it must have slipped up in all the melee.
‘I was slowly getting her out of the car but I don’t know how long it went on for.’
He added that once he got out of the car ‘I didn’t know she was poorly’.
Brehmer told jurors Mrs Parry was ‘angry’ before the struggle and demanded to see messages on his phone.
Brehmer (pictured in a court sketch) told jurors Mrs Parry was ‘angry’ before the struggle and demanded to see messages on his phone
He said: ‘I wasn’t thinking straight, it was like a hurricane in your brain, it was total turmoil and spinning plates and they were all falling down on the floor.
‘I was not angry, I was responding and needed to know what was going on.
‘The dialogue was “what happens now? Where do we go from here? Do you want me to speak to Andrew [Mrs Parry’s police officer husband] again?”.’
Brehmer said ‘jealous’ Mrs Parry wanted to read his messages to see who else he was speaking to.
The court had previously heard how Mrs Parry had threatened to reveal their decade-long affair to his detective wife, DC Martha Brehmer, prior to their fight.
The court had also previously heard Brehmer was a ‘womaniser’ and described as a ‘man w***e’ by Mrs Parry in messages before her death – because he ‘seduced other women in the emergency services’.
Speaking about Ms Parry’s demand to see his messages, he told jurors: ‘She wanted to see the messages I sent to Martha, they are messages for a husband and wife acting normally.’
Brehmer, who said he will ‘always’ love his wife, said he is ‘quite clear’ on the events of May 9 because he has had ‘3,912 hours to think about it’ in a custody cell.
He said he stabbed himself three times but she didn’t see it. He said: ‘The reason was I wanted to show her how desperate I was and to show her how totally out of control it was. She didn’t care.’
He added: ‘She was taking the mick out of me.. she was angry, so angry. She was just jealous of my perfect life as she called it.
‘I was saying ‘I need to go please, just let me go, won’t you let me go?’ I was not angry, that’s the important thing, I was desperate and sad.
‘I said ‘just get out and leave me alone’ and she said ‘you can’t make me’.’
The court had previously heard how Brehmer had likened maintaining his affair with Mrs Parry and keeping his marriage gong to ‘spinning plates’.
The court had previously heard how Brehmer had likened maintaining his affair with Mrs Parry (pictured) and keeping his marriage gong to ‘spinning plates’
He told jurors he was in a ‘desperate’ state as his lover became more angry at the situation.
Brehmer told the court he felt so ‘hopeless’ as Mrs Parry grew more angry he planned to end his own life.
He revealed he planned to do this by tying one end of a rope to a tree and the other to his neck and then getting in his car and driving off so it would ‘take my head off’ – a method he had learned from attending suicide scenes.
Speaking about his state of mind on the morning of May 9, he said: ‘I was desperate and hopeless, low and sad. I didn’t think there was anyway out.
‘I couldn’t tell Martha at that point.. I appreciate I’m a coward for not talking to Martha but the fear of rejection was strong and I didn’t want to be rejected.
‘It was like spinning plates and I know they say beware of your evil deeds they will catch you up but I was feeling desperate about how I would talk to Martha.
‘We both could have got divorces and it could have been acrimonious but it didn’t have to be like this.
‘An affair is an affair… some people have them from time to time, it’s different to how you love your husband or your wife, you still love them but differently.’
He said when he was mowing the lawn on May 9 his head was in ‘turmoil’.
Brehmer told the court he felt so ‘hopeless’ as Mrs Parry grew more angry he planned to end his own life. Pictured: Brehmer’s Citroen C1 in which he is accused of strangling Claire Parry
Brehmer said when he was mowing the lawn on May 9 his head was in ‘turmoil’. Pictured: CCTV shows Claire Parry arriving at the car park in Dorset on May 9
He said: ‘It was absolute turmoil, I had formed the decision that I was going to end my life and I’m embarrassed to say that.
‘It sounds really trivial and it really isn’t, my brain was like a hurricane. I could not face the rejection from my family and didn’t feel like I had anyone to talk to.
‘The person I would talk to historically would be Claire but not about this.
‘That morning I had been researching on the internet the best way to end your life but if you Google it it just gives you the Samaritans, it doesn’t give you the answers which is a bit pointless.
‘My plan was I would get some rope that was strong enough and to tie it to a tree and put it through the back of a car and around my head and drive off as quickly as possible, with sufficient speed that it would take my head off.’
Brehmer said he had seen this method of suicide at incidents as a police officer. He visited a Screwfix to buy blue rope but could not collect it.
He also considered ‘pile-driving his car’ into a tree to end his life.
He said days before, on May 5, he and Mrs Parry had ‘intimate’ sex but two days later – after she had spoken to his previous lover DC Kate Rhodes – she became ‘jealous’.
He said: ‘That evening is when everything changed, she just seemed different and was becoming more jealous.
‘The messages started… they were just very accusatory messages like ‘you have been cheating on me’, there were thousands of them, it became relentless.’
Brehmer said the evening before he allegedly murdered her, May 8, Mrs Parry became even more intense with her messages and he called her but said it was like ‘uncontrolled jealousy’.
The court has heard Brehmer ‘angrily’ choked his victim in the crook of his forearm in his Citreon C1.
The court has heard Brehmer ‘angrily’ choked his victim in the crook of his forearm in his Citreon C1 (pictured outside of Salisbury Crown Court – where the trial is taking place)
Mrs Parry suffered a broken bone in the neck and ‘unsurvivable’ brain damage and she died in hospital the next day.
Brehmer is a former traffic officer who was seconded to the National Police Air Service [NPAS] and lived with wife, Dorset Police DC Martha Brehmer, and their nine year old son in the village of Hordle in Hampshire’s New Forest National Park.
Mrs Parry, who had an eight year old girl and a six year old boy with her husband Andrew, a Dorset Police officer, was a nurse practitioner at a medical centre in Bournemouth, Dorset.
The trial continues.