‘Am I a bad friend?’ Maid of honour wants to to pull out of friend’s wedding because her fiance isn’t invited – sparking a heated debate online
- A woman has revealed why she doesn’t want to be her friend’s maid of honour
- She says she wants to quit the job because her friend did not invite her partner
- The woman said her friend was rude and said numbers were restricted for covid
A woman who has decided to quit as her friend’s maid of honour because her own fiance isn’t invited to the party has been labelled as selfish after asking if bailing on the big day made her a bad friend.
The woman explains she brought up the fact her fiance wasn’t invited to the big event and asked if it was ‘okay to have him around’.
‘Her answer to this was COVID. She was very rude in her responses,’ the disgruntled bridesmaid said.
A woman who has decided to quit as her friend’s maid of honour because her own fiance isn’t invited to the party
‘She has no respect for how I feel and refused to take in what I was saying she was just defensive.’
She then went on to ask if quitting on the big day, which is just weeks before her own, made her a ‘bad friend’.
Many agreed it did.
‘Please don’t be the whinny person who gets upset because your boyfriend or spouse etc can’t be there,’ one woman said.
‘Your boyfriend going may mean she doesn’t have room for grandma to go. It’s stressful enough for brides and to add to it by being a baby because you can’t possibly go a few hours without your bf is crazy.’
‘She gets to decide whom she wants to invite. Can you not go on a day or for hours without your man?’ asked another.
The woman explains she brought up the fact her fiance wasn’t invited to the big event and asked if it was ‘okay to have him around’
‘Thinking it’s selfish on your part, and thinking a bit of understanding on your part wouldn’t go astray. With covid she and groom could be under a lot of stress with only 10 or 20 people allowed ..if family can’t go why would your boyfriend be there?’
However some were on her side, because she is also planning a wedding.
‘Tell her because of covid you can’t risk her wedding instead of yours…use it as your excuse.’ one woman said.
The bride had explained that the wedding numbers were limited because of the global pandemic
‘As you are marrying weeks later, I think it rude not inviting I our fiance. I would kindly decline invite to be bridesmaid and move on,’ said another.
Others said it would be better for the fiance not to go – because she would be too busy on the day to spend time with him.
‘I’ve been a bridesmaid three times and always feel sorry for my fiance because I spend the whole day away from him and he had to sit with people he didn’t know that well. He didn’t mind of course and it was lovely he was included, but I also wouldn’t have minded if he wasn’t invited.